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Valuing people of all ages by investing time, inviting relationship, and seeking their contributions.

***Bonus Points***

“All of you are standing today in the presence of the Lord your God – your leaders and chief men, your elders and officials, and all the other men of Israel together with your children and your wives … You are standing here in order to enter into a covenant with the Lord your God. “Each one of you should use whatever gifts you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace.”  (Deuteronomy 29:10-12)

We are stronger together. Our differences, if approached with humility, add richness and insight. Various individual skills broaden our joint ability. We are better together; young and old, male and female, different nationalities, various levels of education and more. God intended us to be a united family. In that unity is strength, greater understanding and learning. Together, God’s character is more clearly discerned and his leading more confidently discovered. In this context of humility, understanding, and care for one another, the impact is far greater than we can imagine. This is worth bonus points!

What churches can do for;


  • Plan for and engage children in shared experiences with all generations and their families.
  • Create opportunities for children to build relationships with all generations.
  • Plan for and allow all generations to worship together.
  • Use various learning styles and participation to enhance church services.
  • Provide opportunities for generations to celebrate faith milestones and spiritual anchors together.
  • Provide opportunities for children to learn and serve alongside their family and other generations.


  • Plan shared experiences for all generations and their families.
  • Create opportunities where adults mix with all ages including children to build relationships; like socials, games nights, etc.
  • As a church, eat together regularly.
  • Conduct worship together, and invite contributions and participation from all ages.
  • Use various learning styles and participation to enhance church services.
  • Celebrate faith milestones and spiritual anchors together as a church family.
  • Encourage accountability partners, mentors and small groups that cross generations.
  • Serve together as a whole church.

How families can keep connected across generations

  • Enjoy meals and events with your extended family.
  • Invite different families, elderly couples and your children’s friends home for Sabbath lunch.
  • Enjoy worship together when extended family are present, and invite all ages to contribute and participate.
  • Sit together as a family in church.
  • Celebrate events, faith milestones and spiritual anchors with your extended family and the wider church family.
  • Serve with the wider church or your extended family.

How couples can keep connected across generations

  • Love each other, and let your children / church family see God’s love through your relationship.
  • Spend time connecting with you respective “in-laws”.
  • Participate in mentoring marriages; in learning while young, and to invest in other couples as you gain experience.
  • Connect with other couples to enjoy life, support each other and be encouraged.
  • Serve together with your wider church family.

Children are spiritually formed when they observe their parents and other members of the faith community, practicing the worship of God. (Ivy Beckwith, 2010)

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